Be your child’s teacher, coach and limit setter
Being a parent, it’s your responsibility to teach your children to behave more respectfully and manage aggravation better. There are three essential roles for you to play as a parent. You would have to act as a Teacher, Limit Setter and as a Coach for your children. You should teach them how to behave, coach them and motivate them when they get it right, and set limits in case they get it wrong. Acting out the optimal mix of these three roles is really the key to being an effective parent.
Always remember, the ultimate goal is for the children to able to function in the society and to turn out as more responsible adults who can live on their own. As parents, it’s your job to teach and guide your kids to become more purposeful. If they wouldn’t learn how to be respectful to others growing up, it is going to become more difficult for them to learn as an adult. Change is not easy, but it can happen whenever we want to. When you aim for things to be different, all you have to do is to just put in some hard work.
Parents not just have to maintain close relationships with their children; rather have to ensure they maintain open communications so that they can stay connected through all ages of their upbringing. It requires a lot of hard work and effort, like with any other relationship, to build a positive relationship between the parent and child.
Although, there could be a long list of factors that can affect the kind of relationship you’re having with your child. The Fermentalist brings you a collection of tips with which you can enhance your parent-child bonding.
Express and demonstrate love to help them feel important
One of the most important factors in developing a positive relationship with your child is that you should tell them, despite their age, that you love them. A simple “I love you” can work perfect in creating and then strengthening your parent-child bonding.
You can even establish a special name for your kid that is positive and that you can use between each other. Using a special name for your child will act as a reinforcement of your love.
Teach your children about your faith
Educate your children about your faith and beliefs. Tell them what you believe and why is it important. Allow your child to ask questions and answer them honestly, so that they can develop a better understanding of those teachings.
Avoid telling your child that “They are a loser.”
Being called a loser or an idiot is humiliating. These things are said to make people feel shame. Most people believe shame is a good way to punish children. In fact, it has the opposite effect because it causes them to pull out. Shame will make your child less capable of making the right decisions.
There is a difference between shame and guilt. Guilt is a feeling. It is how you feel when you do something wrong or hurtful; that‘s natural. Wanting your children to feel guilt about something they have done wrong, but using shame to make them feel accountable, is not going to work. Telling your child that “they’re a worthless person” is more of a humiliation, it wouldn’t teach accountability.
Allow your children to help you
Quite often parents miss out on opportunities to build stronger relationships by not allowing their children to assist them with different tasks and/or chores. Allowing your child to help you with unloading the groceries after going to the utility store is one of the many ways that children of most ages should help with.