Have you noticed that a friend suddenly stops answering your calls or messages? Or just seems to be ignoring you? Usually one of the primary signs that something may be wrong with your friendship is often when you just don’t hear from your pal. Mostly, people are not that comfortable at initiating conversation when something goes wrong, so you have to point out the very subtle signs that can confirm your friendship, may be is in trouble.
Calls and Messages Go Unanswered
When your friend just doesn't responds to your messages or calls, there could be two reasons for that, your friend could just be busy. Or, it could mean something is amiss. If your casual (“Hey, what’s happening?”) messages aren't getting a reply, try sending a more direct note expressing that you are worried about your friend. Try avoiding not to send a message that tones to be angry or shows you are assuming a situation, avoid using the following statements to catch a reply;
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You Might Not Know That Your Friend is Struggling through a Difficult Time
Often when your friend isn’t responding, it can be very easy to assume that they are upset with you, but in fact, it may be nothing to do with you at all. Maybe your friend is going through a rough time, and for whatever reason (shame, embarrassment) they do not want to share with you. As a good friend, you would want to help, but if your buddy is trying to avoid any of your assistance, there is not much you can do besides just let them know you are always there for them.
It might be Possible that Your Friend is Angry with You
Wouldn't it be great if all our friends could calmly tell us when we have done something to upset them? But it’s sad that in reality everything’s a lot different. People interpret, behave and process anger in unique ways. Some people might prefer to address a situation, they can signal going wrong, right away. With these kinds of people, it’s easier to work out a solution to every problem your friendship might be going through.
Other friends, however, will pull away in reaction to something they think we did, or something we don’t know we have done and that has caused them to be angry with us. If that’s the case it’s the right time to examine how you’ve been dealing with the situation. Did you try and go ask your pal about what was wrong? Has your friend been repeatedly telling you something that bothered them, but you kept doing it anyway? If it was you who did cross the line, did you apologize to them? Or are you assuming that everything would be better in time?
Not all friendships end dramatically. At times, when there has been a consistent issue, one friend will simply walk away because they’ve tried many times to talk about everything they could. In these cases, when you send a routine message to your pal, you are likely to be ignored.
Possibly there has been a problem where your friend’s resentment has been a result of progress over time and they just never expressed it before. Mostly people say nothing the first few times they feel ignored, only to “speak out” later on. In these kinds of situations, their habit may be to pull away and then become angry when you don’t automatically figure out what happened.
Always Try Your Best to Work out a Solution
In order to really figure out what’s wrong, you would have to ask! I know that it might feel kind of scary at first, especially when you have absolutely no idea about why your friend is behaving that way. No matter what, you would have to try and discuss the issue with your friend.
Let your pal mouth about their feelings, and then, repeat back the points your friend made. By doing this you can work out a solution for whatever the problem is. So, just go ahead and put your point forward, let your friend know that you value your friendship more than anything and that you are always there for them.